Throughout our lives strain and pressures are imposed on us.  They come in the form of relationship moments that are difficult or make us feel uncomfortable, pressures at school or on the job, family traumas, illness, and more.  Hair pullers often report that it is stress that is the reason for their hair pulling, but this is not true.  It is the way that you perceive and deal with these stresses and what you tell yourself they mean about you that is the problem.

The key to dealing with things or events that cause you stress is not to unnecessarily shield yourself from them, but to be able to remain calm and centered in the face of them.  No one can control life, but hair pulling is a way to attempt to do so.  In other words you’ve become trapped in your own trap; jailed in your own cell.  Now it’s time to release yourself from the cell and to create a safe haven for yourself in the midst of freedom.