Hair pullers are often in denial of their inner truth. They fool themselves into believing that denial is the route to safety but instead it’s a route to perpetual pain, emptiness and sometimes even death.  Denial is a quicksand – keeping them stuck and gradually sucking them in deeper and deeper – without any hope of escape.  On the other hand, waking up and taking “stock” of their life and coming out of denial offers new choices and possibilities that even moments before weren’t available because of the limitations in their own minds.

Shakti Gawain reminds us, “Remember that the first step in any healing process is always acknowledgment and acceptance of what is true right now.  We don’t heal anything by trying to block it out, get rid of it, or pretend it doesn’t exist.  We heal it by accepting that it’s there, and then becoming aware that there are other choices possible.”

Without this understanding and subsequent acceptance of any problem, one never begins looking for a solution in the first place.