True self-regard is mistrusted in our society.

Considering your own feelings first doesn’t always go well with our social customs.  In fact, many hair pullers grew up learning that to survive we have to make our needs a lower priority than those of other people rather than act on our own behalf from a place of power and self-worth.

If you are self-loving, then nurturing and honoring yourself come first and foremost.  In each moment you ask yourself if the next choice adds or detracts from your experience of life.  This isn’t self-indulgence or allowing inappropriate feelings to drive you.  It’s staying tuned-in to yourself to see if a particular decision adds to or detracts from your sense of self.

Use your mind’s eye to see yourself beyond this addictive behavior.

After exhausting all of the outside options I was willing to try, I knew that the only hope for healing my trichotillomania lay inside of me.  I began to believe that one day I would have a full head of hair.  I began to believe the possibility of self-healing, not to just control my hair pulling by using some method outside of myself.

Can you see your life without hairpulling in it?

The power to completely heal is totally within your own grasp.

We struggle with the inability to believe that we are powerful enough to create our hopes and dreams.

Or, in the moment that we feel inspired to set out after our passion and share it with a husband, lover or mother, we often find our dream smashed to smithereens in less than five seconds.

Another part of our ranking culture is that others often lack the ability to genuinely support you in your dream of healing.

So here is my advice:

Believe that you can change it.  Believe that healing is possible for YOU.  Your beliefs create your reality.

Violence against women and children is the most prevalent human rights violation
globally — and this violence teaches children it’s OK, even moral, to use force to impose
one’s will.

The core common theme that I see within my hair pulling student’s childhood stories is one of an out of balance (and often out of control) power dynamic within the family. We must begin to understand that the way our culture, and consequently the family, views and handles power is at the very core of the rising numbers of trichotillomania sufferers. [Read the rest of this entry...]

Your task in healing your hairpulling is to uncover and heal your own negative beliefs about yourself. This work is NOT about what others have done to you but what you have done and continue to do to yourself within your own mind.

The answer is inside of you. Keep looking within and be willing to see it.

Many children with trichotillomania have learned to withhold their brilliance and deny their feelings. But feelings don’t just go away.  Unfinished feelings stay inside waiting for eventual release.  They return at inconvenient times and create a lot of problems later in life, particularly in relationships.  One can only hold so many of them inside without creating more and more problems in your life.

Your hair pulling has helped you to cope with them.

Hair pulling can teach me so much about myself. It may have saved my life or kept me from losing my mind. I can now use it to understand exactly how I abuse myself and how to transform my entire life for the better.

In my Pull-Free, At Last! program, I offer this antidote.

Can you imagine being grateful for your hair pulling? Pulling your hair out helped your sensitive inner self to survive through situations that might otherwise have emotionally wiped you out or caused you to lose your sanity. You too can get to this place where you feel grateful for your hair pulling.

What can we learn about ending compulsive hair pulling from ancient healing rites?

Long ago in cultures lost to us, “anyone who had suffered loss of health in any way was not treated with external remedies.  In most cases they were taken to the temple and put into a king of sleep.”  The distressed or ill would venture to the nearest temple where priestesses placed them into a deep trance-like sleep and brought on powerful healing.  The symbols of geometry and numerology were used in this work.

So, can art utilizing geometric symbols and numbers and other images help to heal trichotillomania?

Art therapists have long known that art can help us to shift things within the psyche.  Any tool that has the possibility to assist the process and doesn’t harm is worth a try.  Art that you create for yourself can help you to heal by bypassing your rational mind and “interacting” directly with the deeper levels of your being.  This deeper place is where healing must take place to be truly effective.  In simpler words, it can help you break through your stuck places.

The true healing journey is a creative process.

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