Have you searched relentlessly to find an answer as to why your child pulls her hair out?  Your child may have already endured the associated side effects of many different drugs, behavior therapy sessions and more.  Still, none of it has worked effectively or permanently.

You’re watching years of bald spots, eyebrows or eyelashes come and go.  You’re watching your child struggle and suffer.  You’ve been waiting for medical science to come up with a cure for your child for too long now.

Well, right here, right now, before you try anything else,

I am handing you back your power!

The circumstances of your life, your style of relating to others, your parenting style and your relationship with your spouse/partner has likely contributed to your child’s hair pulling problem.

But there is light at the end of the tunnel.   If you have contributed to your child’s trichotillomania, there is a greal deal that you can do about it.

Toxic Belief:

Merciless judgement and endless guilt are the only way I can stop hair pulling.

Pull-Free, At Last! Antidote:

Because I didn’t understand why I pulled, I mercilessly judged myself for doing it.  Now I know that I had a legitimate reason for pulling.  I am ready to remove my judgment in preparation to release myself for good.

Why should you forgive yourself? What did you ever do to warrant forgiveness? Weren’t you the innocent victim of this crazy affliction?

You have a tremendous amount to forgive yourself for. You have the years of secrecy and hiding you’ve put yourself through. You have the fun you’ve missed out on. You have the endless hours of berating yourself for continuing a behavior which you truly saw as repulsive, and the list goes on.

There are many books that I recommend you read on your road to recovery. They all have the same crucial message (and probably many more) in common. And that is, “You must be able to imagine yourself to be in the place where you wish to end up.” In this case, you must be able to see yourself beyond hairpulling in order to heal it. I will emphatically state that one more time. To heal, you must be able to see yourself permanently free of pulling out your hair!

At times on a healing journey it is critical not only to become silent on the inside but to have silence from outside sources as well.

The most nurturing gift you can give yourself is a day of complete quiet just sitting with and honoring your feelings.

Have you ever thought about just how problems get solved?

Can you solve any problem without focusing exclusively on it for at least one minute?

Remember that to fix any problem you must be willing to totally focus on it for the time that it takes to solve it.  I learned that to fix my problem, I had to be willing to focus on it-not just to make it a priority in my life, but to make it THE PRIORITY in my life.

Have you ever been willing to focus directly on your trichotillomania and make healing it THE PRIORITY in your life?

You may fear that if you focus directly on it, your hair pulling will worsen and you are unwilling to take this risk.  This fear is justified, but to heal you must be willing to move through this worsening state.

As I began to focus on it, my trichotillomania did temporarily increase.  As I continued to “front-burner” my problem, I found that I was strong enough to deal with this temporary worsening to reap the greater rewards of complete and total freedom.

To solve any problem you must go beyond your comfort zone and focus on it.  You must start to feel!

Use your mind’s eye to see yourself beyond this addictive behavior.

After exhausting all of the outside options I was willing to try, I knew that the only hope for healing my trichotillomania lay inside of me.  I began to believe that one day I would have a full head of hair.  I began to believe the possibility of self-healing, not to just control my hair pulling by using some method outside of myself.

Can you see your life without hairpulling in it?

The power to completely heal is totally within your own grasp.

Violence against women and children is the most prevalent human rights violation
globally — and this violence teaches children it’s OK, even moral, to use force to impose
one’s will.

The core common theme that I see within my hair pulling student’s childhood stories is one of an out of balance (and often out of control) power dynamic within the family. We must begin to understand that the way our culture, and consequently the family, views and handles power is at the very core of the rising numbers of trichotillomania sufferers. [Read the rest of this entry...]

Has your trichotillomania given you the ability to get up every day and function?

We’ll talk about the other side of hair pulling later on, but for right now I want you to see that, YOU ARE NOT STUPID NOR IS IT LIKELY THAT YOU’RE CRAZY.

You are brilliant and in that brilliance you found a way to save yourself at the lowest cost to the people around you.

But it’s time to save yourself in a brand new, better way.

You don’t have to live a half-life with trichotillomania any more.