Your task in healing your hairpulling is to uncover and heal your own negative beliefs about yourself. This work is NOT about what others have done to you but what you have done and continue to do to yourself within your own mind.
The answer is inside of you. Keep looking within and be willing to see it.
Many children with trichotillomania have learned to withhold their brilliance and deny their feelings. But feelings don’t just go away. Unfinished feelings stay inside waiting for eventual release. They return at inconvenient times and create a lot of problems later in life, particularly in relationships. One can only hold so many of them inside without creating more and more problems in your life.
Your hair pulling has helped you to cope with them.
Hair pulling can teach me so much about myself. It may have saved my life or kept me from losing my mind. I can now use it to understand exactly how I abuse myself and how to transform my entire life for the better.
In my Pull-Free, At Last! program, I offer this antidote.
Can you imagine being grateful for your hair pulling? Pulling your hair out helped your sensitive inner self to survive through situations that might otherwise have emotionally wiped you out or caused you to lose your sanity. You too can get to this place where you feel grateful for your hair pulling.
What can we learn about ending compulsive hair pulling from ancient healing rites?
Long ago in cultures lost to us, “anyone who had suffered loss of health in any way was not treated with external remedies. In most cases they were taken to the temple and put into a king of sleep.” The distressed or ill would venture to the nearest temple where priestesses placed them into a deep trance-like sleep and brought on powerful healing. The symbols of geometry and numerology were used in this work.
So, can art utilizing geometric symbols and numbers and other images help to heal trichotillomania?
Art therapists have long known that art can help us to shift things within the psyche. Any tool that has the possibility to assist the process and doesn’t harm is worth a try. Art that you create for yourself can help you to heal by bypassing your rational mind and “interacting” directly with the deeper levels of your being. This deeper place is where healing must take place to be truly effective. In simpler words, it can help you break through your stuck places.
The true healing journey is a creative process.
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Hair pullers are often in denial of their inner truth. They fool themselves into believing that denial is the route to safety but instead it’s a route to perpetual pain, emptiness and sometimes even death. Denial is a quicksand – keeping them stuck and gradually sucking them in deeper and deeper – without any hope of escape. On the other hand, waking up and taking “stock” of their life and coming out of denial offers new choices and possibilities that even moments before weren’t available because of the limitations in their own minds.
Shakti Gawain reminds us, “Remember that the first step in any healing process is always acknowledgment and acceptance of what is true right now. We don’t heal anything by trying to block it out, get rid of it, or pretend it doesn’t exist. We heal it by accepting that it’s there, and then becoming aware that there are other choices possible.”
Without this understanding and subsequent acceptance of any problem, one never begins looking for a solution in the first place.
“You cannot begin the work of releasing an addiction until you can acknowledge that you are addicted. Until you realize that you have an addiction, it is not possible to diminish its power”
-Gary Zukav
Right now, where is the burning desire to stop pulling out your hair? Is it present and available? Will you do anything to heal it, no matter what it takes? Are you so committed that you’ll
Your mission to heal your hair pulling is more than possible! Know this and ACT accordingly. Make removing trichotillomania from your life your TOP PRIORITY–remembering that you can move onto other things once you’ve accomplished this one thing.
Your answers are inside of you. Keep looking within and be willing to have your eyes opened!
In my Pull-Free, At Last! curriculum, I list five over-arching, “Umbrella” principles of healing any type of compulsive behavior, including trichotillomania:
Be assured…you have everything inside of you that you need in order to heal.
Secrets not only make people sick, they keep them sick and keep them stuck. One of the goals of my work as a self-healing mentor for those who struggle with compulsive hair pulling and other debilitating compulsive behaviors is to help my students recognize the harm of keeping secrets from themselves, from others and the harm of secrets which have been kept from themby others.
My Trichotillomania Tribe is the expression of a vision — one where those with trichotillomania learn that they need not carry shame or stigma for compulsive hair pulling because it is not a statement of low worth, but instead speaks of your great value, sensitivity, loving nature, intelligence, and perception.
Our mission is to:
If our vision speaks to you, please JOIN us!
